Wars were fought by men, politics was done by men. Women always had to portray the civilized figure while under the repression of men. They had no control. All they could do was submit to this condition. One thing that Women had power over is that Men always have had insatiable desire for sex. But sex is weak and frail, if men can’t have their way they look for other partners and once given the power once women held will cease to exist. Looking at the past: Women like Cleopatra of the Egypt, Helen of Troy invented seduction. Alluring appearance with fancy makeup with fashion that made goddess such as Venus come to life. not just a vessel of sex, but a fantasy figure. The conversion from passive sex object to active agent with power, that is what power of seduction gave them.

Seduction is ultimate form of power and persuasion, a sophisticated art.

No man hath in his power to overrule the deceitfulness of a woman - Margurite of Navarre

Staging vast spectacles, using theatrical devices, and a charged physical presence with a delightful charisma. These were feminine strategies. Men learnt that this essence can shift the influence and power without use of any force. Eventually came the men like Fronsac, Don Juan, John F. Kennedy who mastered this art of seduction.

whatever is done from love always occur beyond good and evil - Neitzsche

People who understand the tremendous power contained in the moments of surrender. Those who analyze when people are in love, what kind of psychological components are in play? what spurs the imagination? what casts a spell? They know the art of making people fall in love. people who know love is much more effective than lust. Those who can create enchantment, bonds of love , those who can subjugate hearts and stir minds and those who know “ a person in love will surrender”

A seducer does not turn the power off and on—every social and personal interaction is seen as a potential seduction. There is never a moment to waste. A seducer sees the world as his or her bedroom. They are the warriors. Every person is a walled castle where they are laying seige. They know seduction is penetration: penetration of mind. Seducers are also never self absorbed. There gaze is always outward and not inward. What it is like to see through the person’s skin

भोक र भय

Siren are mermaids or sea creatures whose voices are so captivating that it led the sailors to go astray and sink their vessels while hitting the rocks. Homer in his book odyssey talks about them.

Men always have to be rational, in control and responsible. Sirens allow total release from limitation of life just through her particular appearance and manner. They are the show off. Own kind hate them but opposite gender can’t get enough of them.

Women never feels appreciated enough. She wants attention. It is the job of rake; abnormal and free of any restrains but master of seductive language to stir woman longing. For words are women’s weakness

Giovanni Giacomo Casanova; the ideal lover. who could hide in the dark corners of chapel for hours to please the mayor’s wife who longed for attention that his husband was not giving. Become a serious conversationalist , friend with Princess pauline of portugal who longed for friendship, and then even could steal the heart of already committed iganizia. Because his method was simple: on meeting a women, he would study her, go along with her moods, find out what was missing and provide it.

Ideal lover role takes effort, because you have to focus intensely on other person, fathom what she is missing, what he is disappointed by. Ignore the target’s words and conscious behaviour and study her subtleness: the gesture, the tone of voice, the look in the eye, a blush here, a look there.

Vincent van gogh cut his ears off for love. something that is in our common unconscious from the start.

the ability to observe. they are the painters

person i know : prosjen rai

someone with feminine personality yet hasn’t lost their masculine sense. a heterosexual person who can delightfully go back and forth between two poles. Rodolpho Guglielmi was one of the movie star who had a dancing prowess, could easily connect with female audience. His attention to clothes, with a dapper look made him use feminine power against females.

Lou Andreas Salome who hypnotized man such as Friedrich Nietzsche; the guy even wrote the book thus spoke zarathustra . Beyond her blue eyes, was a sea of curiosity. She always wanted to know more, spark deep conversations and understand the world.

The Dandy displays a true and radical difference from other people, a difference of appearance and manner. Since most of us are secretly oppressed by our lack of freedom, we are drawn to those who are more fluid and flaunt their difference

A golden time of our life, childhood; where spontaneity, sincerity and unpretentiousness are the traits. Through their innocence, they persuade their parent to fulfill their desires. They are the master persuaders. For someone well into adulthood who has not forgotten but mastered and tailored these traits for persuasion are the Naturals. Most people try to please, but for a child or a natural; they can please someone effortlessly, it doesn’t seem manipulative, it is beyond logical explanation- anything that is beyond logical explanation is really dangerous trait. Naturals always position themselves as the younger one.

Qualities in natural

Shadow: chase it and you will keep on following it, turn your back and move on, it will follow you.

Coquettes are defined by their mysteriousness, self sufficiency or narscissm.They can alternate between the hotness and coldness. They are vibrant with you once, they give you hints, they adore you and like a switch they are distant, calm, unresponsive and cold. The idea behind this personality is that, they will not submit their primary weapon, the thing that seduced you. The total satisfaction will never be given. The seduced are in constant to and fro between hope and frustation. They bait with the promise of reward —the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power—all of which, however, proves elusive. It’s like a donkey and a carrot.

Stories of coquettes: Josephine of paris and nepolean bonaparte. After surviving from nearly being chopped off from the guillotine, the widowed josephine invited bonaparte to her party. She was the center of attention of that party. for some reason, even associating or her coming to talk to someone would satisfy someone’s ego as they would get the limelight. That night she made napeoleon fall in love with her. Nepolean persued her. When going to visit, sometimes she would act like he was nobody, wouldn’t give any attention to him or wouldn’t even come out. Bonaparte would become angry, but next day he would receive the sweetest letter for him by josephine, about how sorry she was for the day before. and apparently that worked. He married that widowed lady. she was not the best looking but she knew how to seduce him. The man even while fighting the war would write steamy letters for her, but she wouldn’t write back. He demanded her to come visit him but she would come to visit. For the days she visited him, they would be the best days of his life. Even in his death bed , the guy’s last word was “josephine”. Such is the power of seduction.

The cold coquette: Andy warhol, one of the pioneers of “pop art”. comic book wala art He was shy at the begenning and wanted to grab people attention, but seemed too needy. He badgered people to get them publish his art to their books. Later he grew distant, and now he found out people wanted to associate themselves with him. He was famous at that point but mysterious at a same time. He rarely talked but people would send limousines for him to attend their parties. When asked to describe his art, he would just say something short. His interpretation was that “the more you need to describe”, the “less the art has impact”.

Frued was also a coquette apparently, his disciples describe him as having “god complex”. He kept his personal life mysterious. and him inviting someone to dinner meant very much to disciples.

JK krishnamurty was celibate but dressed tastefully. He was philosopher and during his speeches he used to make it clear that he did’nt want anykind of fame or following and he meant it. But this had a opposite effect on women. They lusted for him apparently.

Proudness is such a contradiction. One may be proud that he is proud, another proud that he is not proud.

A person’s biggest flaw is his vanity{wanting self-admiration and applaus} and and Ego{thinking highly of ourselves} प्रशंशा का भोगी र अहंकार and Charmers understand that. They wield the power of focused attention, listening and understanding. Their admiration is intoxicating. when you sit with a charmer, you don’t feel like they are the smartest, but they make you feel like you are the smartest. They censure if censured, endorse if endorsed, weep if weeped and laugh if laughed.

Talk to the man himself, and he will listen for hours. Their target are their main source of attention, they are source of pleasure for targets{ they are lighthearted and fun}, they avoid antagonismness, they lull their victims to ease and comfort, and they appear when needed. They are useful

Benjamin Disraeli and Queen Elizabeth. The guy was the primeminister when queen was in her 50s and recently had lost her husband. She had already grew distant from the politics and was cold. Benjamin was dandy in his youthful years, and his personality was vibrant. When meeting queen he was asked to curb his elegance. On meeting He admired her qualities, vowed his allegiance to the queen. Most important he was polite, like a warmth to a wax, that makes it soft and pliable. Queen had written 1 book, the guy had written 10. But still in his letters he used to toss out the words “we authors”. He would send him primroses, the most generic among the flowers. His reasoning; primroses are the flowers that last the longest. Suddenly queen favorite flowers were primroses.

Zhou Enlai , Chiang Kai-shek and Zedong. Zedong was leader of communist party, Chiang of Nationalist party and Zhou was one of the members of communist party. While in the height of the war against the japanese. Chiang, the nationalist party member had all his power focused against the communist and he nearly wiped them. But seeing japanese invasion, the nationalist army imprisoned chiang and demanded he join the cause of fighting japanese. He rejected it, and later one of his old friend zhou enlai who was now a communist came to make him join the cause. Chiang hated communists with passion and he ranted about them with his friend. He wanted death rather than joining cause with communist and demanded it. But zhou listened what he had to say, but didn’t do anything; He just said killing such a great man won’t be allowed under his watch. Chiang was moved by this. then he was freed. 3 months later he joined the cause.

Inner self quality : self-confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose, contentment brings out the charismatic in us.

purpose, mysteriousness, saintliness, eloquence

Make people believe that you have a plan, that you know where you are going.

Mysteriousness : cruel and kind, exitable and icily detached, intimate and distant…… Be uncanny, appearance of prophetic or psychic gifts will add it to your aura.

Saintliness: spiritually pure. There must be something that you deeply think about. Value to be particular. Einstein was saintly. He was a curious saint….

Eloquence: Power of words, words are the quickest way to create emotional disturbance.

Theatricality:

Uninhibitedness: They look like even in the worse of situations, they are the people that can hold on. They have no fear of death, no fear of what people say.

fervency: They believe in something, and believe it so strongly that your faith becomes contagious.

Aventurousness: they can take risks, even for good of others. They have air of adventure and risk that attracts the bored.

Paudel is example of this type. Robespierre They act like they are some kind of saviour, but the moment of emotional fatigue makes their charisma fade away. Charismatics need danger and risk.

Marlene Dietrich, lola-lola was the star kind. These People can study themselves, and project their persona and their exterior to the liking of others. It always feels like there is more to their character. But they are like art, which you can admire, something you can fetisize but the art is distant, it is beautiful albeit cold. these stars are also cold.

kennedy was also a star. They make their connection vague; they should never be obvious to conscious mind. Your words and actions should invite interpretation beyond the surface appearance.

The art of insinuation, of reaching unconsious

insecure, self-absorbed and unable to grasp the psychology of another person. They are ungenerous, they interpret slightest ambiguity on your part as slight to their ego.

You make a slighest of joke about them, and they take up to the ego.

Claudius was a anti-seducer. Even though the part of royal family of greece. He was the running joke of within, even his enemies let him go under this pretext. Claudius had the most beautiful wife, Valeria Messalina but didn’t give two cents about her. She had a room built for her pleasure because his husband had eyes fixated on food, wine and other forms of debauchery. He was buillied from the beginning by his cousin caliguli, and maybe that was the reason he built a shell around him that gave him ability to stop taking anything seriously. lack of attention over a prolonged period of time is anti seductive.

William Gladstone, the nemesis of Benjamin Disraeili. He was not the methodical or gentle. During his term as a primeminister of Britain, He was constanly belitteling queen’s decisions, giving long speeches that didn’t arouse the audience. He was not liked in the women community, mainly because of his views; he thought women had to see things as man did, he though women were irrational. Women views didn’t matter at that time so he was successful. He is anti seductive type because he had no patience for a different perspective, he had no idea how to deal with someone else’s psychology.

Types of anti seducer

The Reformed Rake or Siren: These were once successful seducers. Maybe age, or relationship caused them to cool. These people want to recapture their pleasant past. Use that. Also make them feel that they are the ones doing seducing. Not you

The disappointed dreamer: Ones who was alone in their childhood and now into fantasy world like harry potter, avengers etc. They suppress the feeling of disappoinment induced by human frailities. They want either to be saviour or be saved. It has to be exiteful and dangerious. Recognize them by the books they read, films they go to, clothes they wear.

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The pampered Royal: These are spoiled children. Their parents provided them anything they liked in their past. There was variety in their toys. Now there is no one there to pamper them. They get quickly bored over relationships. They want to find variety. They are quickly bored. In fact they are not longing for variety, but someone to pamper them, they want a parental figure.

If you want to seduce this type ,then you have to provide distractions - new places to visit, novel experiences etc. Also maintain the air of mystery. Suprise your target with new side to your character. Don’t show them on first day that you are good guitarist, or you are good comedian. So don’t fking showoff on social media on your primary handle. Don’t ever offer them long term security

New prude

These people are concerned with appearanaces, what society considers appropriate and acceptable behaviour. They stay within boundaries of correctness because they fear society judgement.

Notice them, they are the average people. They don’t take fashion risks. They can be judgemental and critical to people who take risks. They are addicted to routine.

Deep down they have repressed their real feelings, so they are longing for someone who has dangerous and naughty side. You can draw them to you by giving them chance to ciritize you, or reform you.

Crushed star

Once had all the attention. But now they don’t have . Very easy, make them the center of attention. Act as if they were stars and you were basking in the glow. get them to talk about themselves. In social situation, mute your colors and let them shine.

Novice

These people have no first hand experience with world. But talk about their hobbies, and they would keep talking about it. Everybody thinks they are sweet and innocent. But they know they aren’t.

You have to have touch of playfulness, and you should plan to give them the experience to the world. Take them to new places but be very gentle. Use seductive languages.

Conquerers

they have unusual amount of energy. They are always in search for people to conquer, obsatcles to surmount. These people are emotional, but behind a shell. To bring out the real them, give them obstacles, some resistance and never let them overwhelm you.

The exotic fetishist

These people are into foreign culture, they fetishize the music and art of foreign culture, so much so that it is their personality.Deep down they have a strong dose of self-loathing for them

To seduce them position yourself as exotic. Start with clothes, the things you talk about, the places you take them, make a show of difference. they are delusional, so even if you exaggerate a little they will imagine the rest.

The Drama Queen

These people want all the drama in their lives. Because that is their source of curing boredom. Don’t even try. Because they love pain. Pain is the source of pleasure for them.

If you want to, then you will be willing to give them the rough treatment they desire.

The professor

Whose mind are overdeveloped and overstimulated. Even when they talk about love or sex, it with thought and analysis. They feel physically inferior and compensate by lording their mental superiority over others. You might not know what they are talking about, but you know they are looking down upon you. They want a siren in their lives, someone who is physically superior. If you have intellectual tendencies, hide them. You don’t want them getting competetive.

The Beauty

From early in life, they are admired about their beauty. but beauty might be source of her unhappiness. They think that being admired for appearance is monotonous and unsatisfying.

Validate those things, others don’t see. Everybody sees her face. Whatabout her intelligence, her skills, her character. Don’t go invalidating her beauty but you add some flair to it by making her chromatic and not monotone

The aging baby

some people refuse to grow up. They are narcissitic. Be the responsible one. Let them be free Be their parental figure

The Rescuer

people who like to be draw to people who are vulnerable and weak. Because they themselves are and by helping others, it gives them sense of superiority. You will notice they have relationship with dependent and troubled people. play someone who cannot deal with this harsh world; lure them by saying they you had string of bad relationships, you have gotten a raw deal in life. Or ask for moral rescue, you have done something bad and you want them to help you.

The Roue

These people have lived a good life and experienced many pleasures. They have a good deal of money, to finance their hedonistic lives. They seem cynical and jaded on outside.

Idol worshipper

These people are not satisfied with themselves, they search for something in the world to worship, something to fill that inner void. This assumes the form of great interest in spiritual matters or in some worthwhile cause; They leave one cult to another.

These people can be seduced by first hiding your flaws; then mirror the qualities they aspire to have for themselves and transfer the adoration into you. Let romance and religion flow into one.

They have overactive minds, which makes them quite suspicious. They often lack physical stimuation. Give them that: trek to mountains, boat trip, sex etc. They are to worship you, so don’t praise them.

Sensualist : Bajru can’t stand a song, some people can’t stand the colors. They are oversensitive

take these people to beautiful places, pay attention to detail, envelop them in spectacle

floating gender

we are generally too self-absorbed; we think more about what we want from others than what they could want from us. people thoughts tend to revolve around their daily concerns and insecurities, you can’t proceed with a seduction until you put their anxieties to sleep.

people who are volcanically passionate. Perfect victims are often people who think you have something they don’t. Poeple who repress the appetite for pleasure makes ripe vitims.

there something about the sense of destiny. making them feel that it was the destiny rather than the ploy. The feeling of secureness. Don’t be direct.

Duke De lauzun and anne marie. Make the victim think that they are the ones doing the seducing.

The spider web. innocous corner in which to spin its web.

To capture and hold attention, you need to show attributes that goes against the contrarian ideas. that creates depth and mystery. You need to have hint of darkness, something cruel in your character.

Ménage à trois.

Salome was one of them. Be a trophy

Anxiety and discontent

Story of David Herbert Lawrence

The Japanese say you have three faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.

cupid arrow : creates anxiety . because it pierces the flesh.

insinuation

when yang is ascendant, yin is born

How they respond to your stimuli. the unconscious portion: perhaps a blush, pulling out of hair, or maybe eyeroll. If they are not reacting they are not the right victims.

Never attach to arms of the first person who seems to like you. This is not a seduction but insecurity

people with alot of time on their hands are extremely susceptible to seduction.

Its a big game

control. If you feel like you are in it, you are more susceptible to do things. The power of indirection can make people feel like they are in control, but it is the seducer who holds the ability to move people in direction you want them to go. You must make the target come to you. you win the game. To make them come to you, it requires giving them space, haunting their periphery.

deliberate dullness. In psychotherapy Doctors use them, with their monosyllabic responses.

never declare your feelings, early on. it might be irritating and might provoke mistrust. innocuous

You have a innocent side, and then you have the dark side. You have to leave things to imagination. The ambiguity that lets them see what they want to see.

Silenus : greek, ugly, but inside hollow where you would find little gods. Compared with socrates by one of the students aclibiades

complexity you signal to other people will only affect them properly if they have the capacity to enjoy a mystery . Test the waters

A person will desire any object so long as he is convinced that it is desired by another person whom he admires.